Confusions could go away just by doing the little things to hit someone's heart. It's just a matter of willing and wanting to do. I had my own confusions too, but I'm glad that I feel my heart was beating again yesterday. :)
Everybody should have their own little secret, as long as the one is not cheating on you with another then it's fine.
Wednesday, January 24, 2007
Tuesday, January 23, 2007
Question marks...
Getting back together suppose to be a good thing, because you will treasure and respect each other more and also you will get to know eachother more than before. But how come still this insecurity and loneliness? He choses you because he loves you, but does it mean he can forget his past and let things go? Does it mean he is with you and his heart is also with you? I don't know.... everything is still so uncertain and unknown to me and possibly for him as well.... maybe time will tell and I shouldn't think too much....
The most important thing is I should find a way to enjoy my life in Hong Kong (which is tough) and find a hobby to keep myself busy.
The most important thing is I should find a way to enjoy my life in Hong Kong (which is tough) and find a hobby to keep myself busy.
Monday, January 22, 2007
Guilts....
It hurts to see someone you Love ignores you...it also hurts to see that he doesn't feel your love....but it is more hurting' to know that he also loves you but he doesn't want to let you know because he is afraid. Afraid to get hurt or to hurt someone again.
Having guilts to someone you have loved before and could not let go is understanding, getting back with someone because you feel guilty to her is more painful. No women on earth like pitty love, if the woman really loves you she rather you being honest to her and face the fact that the feelings are over. Be brave and face your emotional problems will solve your daily problems as well. Stepping out and running away is not the way of solving a problem, it is only pushing your problems to the next day, week or month.
Just because the past is painful, doesn't mean the future will be. So never let events from the past, change the events for the future. Or you will be miserable forever.
Having guilts to someone you have loved before and could not let go is understanding, getting back with someone because you feel guilty to her is more painful. No women on earth like pitty love, if the woman really loves you she rather you being honest to her and face the fact that the feelings are over. Be brave and face your emotional problems will solve your daily problems as well. Stepping out and running away is not the way of solving a problem, it is only pushing your problems to the next day, week or month.
Just because the past is painful, doesn't mean the future will be. So never let events from the past, change the events for the future. Or you will be miserable forever.
Facts...
Never say goodbye when you still want to try.
Never give up when you still feel you can take it.
Never say you don't love a person when you can't let go.
It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else, but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.....
Being in love isn't about picturing yourself with one person for the rest of your life. It is about not being able to picture yourself without that person for one day....
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with.
Never give up when you still feel you can take it.
Never say you don't love a person when you can't let go.
It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else, but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.....
Being in love isn't about picturing yourself with one person for the rest of your life. It is about not being able to picture yourself without that person for one day....
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with.
Thursday, January 4, 2007
Love is.....
Love is.... not finding the dream person, but instead, the one who put you in his or her first place. Whatever he or she does, he or she is thinking of you and put you into every consideration.
Love is.... also having trust, honesty, forgeviness, patience, appreciation and communication.
There are still alot to learn how to love and be loved..............
Love is.... also having trust, honesty, forgeviness, patience, appreciation and communication.
There are still alot to learn how to love and be loved..............
Friday, December 22, 2006
Relationship, Time & Space
How much emotional space do you occupy in your relationship? Could the amount of emotional space you and your partner each take up have anything to do with whether your relationship makes it or not? Indeed it does. Just what do I mean by "emotional space?" It's the time, energy, and space your partner spends dealing with or listening to your emotions, words, thoughts, wants, needs, etc.
One person in the relationship takes up most of the emotional space.
In this type of relationship, one partner seems to be super involved, expressing most of everything in the relationship. This person may seem extreme, emotional, needy, intense, and possessive, while the other person may appear to be uninvolved in the relationship, seeming to have hardly any needs at all.
The partner that seems super involved is typically filling up the most emotional space in the relationship, often out of fear that there will not be a relationship if the emotional space is not occupied.
Unfortunately this is a mistake. The emotional life of the relationship needs to be generated by two people as equally as possible. Otherwise, you end up with a lopsided relationship and with both people unhappy. One will be unhappy because he or she is always working on the relationship and the other one will be unhappy because he or she seemingly can't get a break from the drama. A couple who frequently deals with drama gets exhausted and burned out and never achieves the closeness and connection they crave.
What's more, the person who is generating the relationship will eventually get burned out and will need to stop. If the lopsided relationship has been going on for too long, it may simply fall apart.
If you are the person taking up most of the emotional space, stop. By taking up most of the space, you prevent your partner from participating in the relationship. Stop taking up the space by shifting your needs outside the relationship (not infidelity). Instead of talking to your partner, talk to your friends or family or to your journal. Instead of asking for many needs to be met, ask for only some to be met, or for none to be met for a period of time.
Time and Space are the most beautiful things in a relationship!
One person in the relationship takes up most of the emotional space.
In this type of relationship, one partner seems to be super involved, expressing most of everything in the relationship. This person may seem extreme, emotional, needy, intense, and possessive, while the other person may appear to be uninvolved in the relationship, seeming to have hardly any needs at all.
The partner that seems super involved is typically filling up the most emotional space in the relationship, often out of fear that there will not be a relationship if the emotional space is not occupied.
Unfortunately this is a mistake. The emotional life of the relationship needs to be generated by two people as equally as possible. Otherwise, you end up with a lopsided relationship and with both people unhappy. One will be unhappy because he or she is always working on the relationship and the other one will be unhappy because he or she seemingly can't get a break from the drama. A couple who frequently deals with drama gets exhausted and burned out and never achieves the closeness and connection they crave.
What's more, the person who is generating the relationship will eventually get burned out and will need to stop. If the lopsided relationship has been going on for too long, it may simply fall apart.
If you are the person taking up most of the emotional space, stop. By taking up most of the space, you prevent your partner from participating in the relationship. Stop taking up the space by shifting your needs outside the relationship (not infidelity). Instead of talking to your partner, talk to your friends or family or to your journal. Instead of asking for many needs to be met, ask for only some to be met, or for none to be met for a period of time.
Time and Space are the most beautiful things in a relationship!
Thursday, December 21, 2006
"The Break-Up"
I was watching a movie called "The Break-Up" last night. It's about two couples who were deeply in love when they just started dating eachother, everything was sweet loving and OK. As time goes by you will find out that things aren't that perfect as you wished and thought it would be - which followed by arguments, fights, miscommunications, tears and break up.....
Why do men always move one step only when women ask them to move, why can't they just do things by themselves and from his heart? Why do women always have to criticise and complain about the smallest thing and make it a big fuss?
"If you love someone, but take them for granted and don't communicate, you can destroy a once great relationship. Finding a strong connection is possible, but relationships must be nurtured and honored. Ultimately, the success of a relationship isn't always judged by whether it worked out, but by how much you've evolved, and how much better prepared you are because of what you have gone through and learned."
Why do men always move one step only when women ask them to move, why can't they just do things by themselves and from his heart? Why do women always have to criticise and complain about the smallest thing and make it a big fuss?
"If you love someone, but take them for granted and don't communicate, you can destroy a once great relationship. Finding a strong connection is possible, but relationships must be nurtured and honored. Ultimately, the success of a relationship isn't always judged by whether it worked out, but by how much you've evolved, and how much better prepared you are because of what you have gone through and learned."
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
Christmas
Christmas is next week already, quite in a Christmas mood. Buying Christmas presents for my family, friends and ofcourse my Chu Bo. Feel so warm and happy when I see the Christmas lighting and decorations everywhere. But at the same time, deep inside, I do feel a bit empty & lonely. Empty & lonely because I miss my home girls and friends in Holland. Back then we always gather at Joeri & Chi Ho's place and everyone will bring their own alcohol, food & games over (American style). Joeri & Chi Ho's place is like Monica & Rachel's apartment in Friends, everybody likes to hang out at their place and could walk in & out. So much fun and laughter.
I remember, we were joking and said if we won mark 6 we will buy a giant villa so we could live together but still have our own privacy. Don't know when it will come true though.... 'cause all of us are already moved on. Most of us are graduated and moved out their student apartments, some are working oversea, some are married and have childrens. Very happy to see and hear that everybody is going well and happy with their lives now. Wish my dearest friends in Holland having a " warm & wonderful Christmas" .
I love you all.........
I remember, we were joking and said if we won mark 6 we will buy a giant villa so we could live together but still have our own privacy. Don't know when it will come true though.... 'cause all of us are already moved on. Most of us are graduated and moved out their student apartments, some are working oversea, some are married and have childrens. Very happy to see and hear that everybody is going well and happy with their lives now. Wish my dearest friends in Holland having a " warm & wonderful Christmas" .I love you all.........
Monday, December 18, 2006
4 Months Anniversary
Today is my 4 months anniversary with Chu Bo (aka Kelvin). I would like to share with you that this guy has brighten up my life since the first day I met him. We went trough a tough time together within this 4 months and am so happy that he is still with me. Close friends know that I am always picking up the wrong guys or let the wrong guys to pick me. kekekee I hope I have more luck this time cos I can feel that he is the one I have been looking for....
Thanks for your love & support.....
Thanks for your love & support.....
2nd Year in HK
It's been my second year in Hong Kong. Things aren't the same as the first year - advantages and disadvantages. Advantages = everyone is moving on and I met someone I love. Disadvantage = you see more of the evil side of the human beings around you. Sure and no doubt they will be everywhere but I am just so tired of it...... Miss the good old days back in Holland with my girls and friends.
Lot of peoples think my job is fun and exiting but to be frank, I am so sick of it!! Mentally & Physically. Few weeks ago I asked my self this question: What is more important in your life - happiness & a good health OR money? Sure, money makes things happen, but if money can't buy you a good health and relationship, what is your choice then? If you're stressed out of work and work off your feelings onto your boy friend is it healthy? I really don't know..... Life is all about choices you have & can make. My choice is now remain - UNKOWN!
Lot of peoples think my job is fun and exiting but to be frank, I am so sick of it!! Mentally & Physically. Few weeks ago I asked my self this question: What is more important in your life - happiness & a good health OR money? Sure, money makes things happen, but if money can't buy you a good health and relationship, what is your choice then? If you're stressed out of work and work off your feelings onto your boy friend is it healthy? I really don't know..... Life is all about choices you have & can make. My choice is now remain - UNKOWN!
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